The most challenging growth experience of my life, amazing connections with new people, and a totally new way of relating to my partner of over a decade.

What did you ask for? : To open my long-term partnership (10+ years) to ethical non-monogamy — so for my husband and I to date other people while staying committed to each other.

What did you receive? : The most challenging growth experience of my life, amazing connections with new people, and a totally new way of relating to my partner of over a decade.

How did you feel? Did you believe it was already there? Did you allow it to show up?: It was terrifying. I felt shame for even asking. I'm working hard to walk with patience around it, still.